If you’ve been in the dating scene for a while, the idea of a first date makes you nauseated.
MAKE THE DATE ESCAPABLE if you don’t know the person that well.
Coffee dates, drink dates, icecream/fro-yo dates are great for this! There’s no sure way of knowing that you two will hit it off.
And if he orders dessert, you are screwed, my friend.
But! On the other hand, if he’s great, just keep sitting at your booth and order a second drink.
Also, a perk to the coffee date is you leave an aura of mystery and depth. Don’t set aside a whole evening for someone you barely know; your time is too valuable.
Even if you just create this illusion and go home to your bubble bath, he’s left thinking Wow, she has something going on in her life and isn’t relying on me to make it interesting. Guys hate that kind of pressure.
You’d be surprised the subtle changes our minds go through once the channel of physical contact is crossed.
Ways you could do this without seeming crazed is through compliments.
Chances are (hopefully) he put some thought into getting dressed, so toss him a bone and say his shirt is a great color, style, or just say you like it! Lightly brush your fingers across what you complimented…in a non-overly sexual way. Don’t forget to be a lady 🙂
He wants to impress you! A compliment will put him at ease and in turn, yourself.
Now, if you’re feeling bold, touch his arm and compliment his time at the gym, biceps, whatever. But, most importantly, be genuine!
If he looks like an alpaca died on him, just let it go.
There is a perk to front facing though…^
BE AWARE OF YOUR CONVERSATIONAL SKILLS when there is activity around you.
Personally, I love talking (shocker), and rarely have a hard time finding something to say. So, I could opt for either a quiet walk with someone or have no problems competing with a busy environment like a museum/mall type setting.
However, I know girls who run very dry in their conversation and need something around them to talk about. They should stick to a quiet museum or people watching at a semi busy cafe.
If you are a meek and deep soul, go for a walk in a calm public place or pick a corner booth, because the worst thing would be saying nothing at all because your voice is lost in the crowd.
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